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Here you’ll find links to resources referenced in the book or used in its preparation, in order of appearance. You Stole My Heart… Do I Have To Take Your Name?
Freakonomics Podcast. How Much Does Your Name Matter?
Dubner, S.J. (2011) Zymor’s Revenge. (For more on relationship between the letter your last name starts with, and academic success) Freakonomics Blog.
Levitt, S.D. & Dubner, S.J. (2015) Think Like a Freak. William Morrow. (For more on the relationship between marriage and happiness)
A Country By Any
Wikipedia has a summary of the Macedonia naming dispute
You can find our
photos of North Macedonia on our travel instagram account,
Why Name Choices
Can Spell Trouble
Summary of the University of Indiana survey
Pasfield-Neofitou, S. How Much Should You Spend on an Engagement Ring? Enrichmentality .
Haven’t Always Been Around… And They’re Far From Universal
Wikipedia has a summary of the history and regional variation of surnames
Patronymics To Matronymics – And Everything In Between
Majkut, K. (2014) Is Choosing to Take Your Husband’s Surname Really Feminist? The Feminist Bride .
Majkut, K. (2018) The Adventures and Discoveries of a Feminist Brid e: What No One Tells You Before You Say “I Do”. Black Rose Writing.
Partner Changes Their Name to the Other Partner’s
Garcia, S. (2016) Most Australian Women Still Take Husband’s Surname After Marriage, Professor Says. (Contains statistics from the ABC. Men’s Health 2013 poll)
Australian Bureau of Statistics (ABS). Australian Households and Families (“only 71.5% of Australian households consist of families – and the definition of ‘family’ according to the ABS (and me too, actually) includes couples without children. Of the households characterised as ‘families’, couples without children are now more common than couples or single parents with children. Combining these figures, just over half of Australian households consist of a single person or a couple, while nuclear, step, blended, and other families, as well as shared house arrangements, make up the rest.” – Enrichmentality)
Etsy provides many examples of wedding paraphernalia with some version of “He stole my heart… so I’m taking/stealing his last name” on tank tops, photo signs, wooden plaques, custom T-shirts, wedding signs, engagement announcement cards, mugs, and even a glitter-lettered veil.
McDonough, K. (2013) Man Who Adopted His Wife’s Last Name is Accused of Fraud. Salon.
Majkut, K. (2014) 10 Wedding Traditions Worth Skipping. The Feminist Bride
Levitt, S.D. & Dubner, S.J. (2009) Freakonomics. William Morrow Paperbacks. (first names)
Pilcher, J. (2017) Names and “Doing Gender” How Forenames and Surnames Contribute to Gender Identities, Difference, and Inequalities. Sex Roles.
The Knot. (Contains statistics from the An LGBTIQ+ Couple’s Guide to Marriage Name Changes. Q.Digital/TheKnot 2017 poll)
Valosik, V. (2013) For Same-Sex Couples, Changing Names Takes On Extra Significance. The Atlantic .
Sandberg, S. (2013) Lean In . Knopf.
Garcia, P. (2015) In a Same-Sex Marriage, Who Gets To Keep Their Name? Vogue .
Stark, S. Game for the Name. (video) The New York Times.
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@brenda.struhko on instagram.
Naish, N. (2014) Why Amal Clooney is Making a Mistake by Assuming Her Actor Husband’s Surname. Legal Cheek .
DeParle, J. & Tavernise, S. (2012) For Women Under 30, Most Births Occur Outside Marriage. The New York Times .
Swinford, S. (2013) Most Children Will Be born Out of Wedlock by 2016. The Telegraph .
Groffman, A. How Gay Travel is Different (And Why It Matters) Nomadic Matt .
Deveny, C. (2017) Why Aren’t Men Changing Their Name After Marriage? ABC .
Schafer, E.F. (2017) Hillary Rodham Versus Hillary Clinton: Consequences of Surname Choice in Marriage.
Miss Now Mrs. (2017) 70% of Americans Believe Women Should Change Their Name After Marriage: A Name-Change Expert Sounds Off.
Wang, W. (2015) The Link Between a College Education and a Lasting Marriage. Pew Research Center.
Etymonline: (etymology of the term ‘bachelor’ and ‘bachelor’s degree’) Bachelor
Behind the Name: (etymology of -son and related suffixes in surnames) son
Gottman, J. & Silver, N. (2018) The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work . Orion Spring
Emens, E.F. (2011) Marriage Options: A Simple Hyphen Will Do. The New York Times .
Erichsen, G. (2019) Spanish Surnames: ‘Last names’ come from both mother and father. ThoughtCo.
Your Partner’s Name as a Middle Name (Or the other way around)
Scheuble, L.K. & Johnson, D.R. (2016) Keeping Her Surname as a Middle Name at Marriage: What Predicts this Practice Among Married Women Who Take Their Husband’s Last Name? Names: A Journal of Onomastics .
a New Name
Deitz, B. (2015) Married Couples Who Made Up Their Own Last Name And Are Better Off For It. Bustl e .
idoonabudget.com) Same-Sex Marriage – What/Who’s Surname to Choose? Pink Wedding Venues .
Suzzgen. Surname Prefixes and Suffixes. All About Genealogy.
Your Name as a Whole
Babynames.com Top 10 Baby Names Tips.
Levitt, S.D. & Dubner, S.D. (2016) When to Rob a Bank . William Morrow Paperbacks. (For more on aptonyms, or names that are strangely apt for a person’s profession etc.)
Belenzon, S., Chatterji, A.K. & Daley, B. (2017) Eponymous Entrepreneurs. American Economic Association . (The success of companies named after their founders) Video summary
Levitt, S.D & Dubner, S.J. (2011) Superfreakonomics . William Morrow Paperbacks. (For more on the relationship between name starting initials and publications, ethnicity of names)
Crazy Domains (Check if the name you want is available as a URL)
James, A. Transgender Name Choice. Transgender Map.
Wedding is Only One Day
Etiquette Hell (Light relief for stressed brides, grooms, or wedding party members!)
Kaufman, A. (2016) Bachelor Nation: Inside the World of America’s Favorite Guilty Pleasure. Dutton.
Montell, A. (2019) WordSlut: A Feminist Guide to Taking Back the English Language . Harper Wave.
Frank, G. (2017) What to Expect When You Don’t Change Your Last Name After Marriage: 9 Things You Didn’t Know. Today .
I Have to Change My Name?… Then Why is It So Common?
Majkut, K. (2011) Why Women Change Their Last Names After Marriage. The Feminist Bride.
White, S. (2017) The Meaning of Traditional Wedding Cakes. Our Everyday Life .
Mack, L. (2017) 7 Popular Wedding Traditions That Are Actually Super Creepy. Insider .
World Wildlife Fund (Rather than purchasing something ivory, I sent my husband a WWF giftcard making a donation to elephant conservation on our 14 th anniversary)
Tyler, M. (2015) No, Feminism Is Not About Choice. The Conversation.
Kiraly, M. & Tyler, M. eds. (2015) Freedom Fallacy: The Limits of Liberal Feminism . Connor Court Publishing.
Moran, C. (2012) How to Be a Woman. Harper Perennial.
Pasfield-Neofitou, S. – Relationships. Enrichmentality .
Pasfield-Neofitou, S. – Are We Speaking The Same Language? Enrichmentality.
Kishimi, I. & Koga, F. (2018) The Courage to be Disliked . Atria Books.
To Do About It
Ni, P. (2013) The #1 Predictor of Divorce (and How to Prevent It). Psychology Today.
Etymonline: Husband .
Etymonline: Wife .
Scruton, E. (2017) Gender Insults in the Semantics-Pragmatics Interface .
‘I Do’… To What Makes You Happiest
WonderWhy (2019) Why Countries Change Their Names . (video) Grab the book!